Its okay if not everybody likes you, the most important thing is for you to like yourself. Don’t change yourself just to fit in other people’s mold of how you should be.
the most power anyone has over you should be the power to make you wonder where you can improve, how you can move forward and grow and what it is about you that might need a bit more work. you shouldn’t enter any kind of relationship with the impression that you’re not good enough and it’s only a matter of time before you ruin things, but you also shouldn’t enter any type of relationship thinking that you’re as perfect as you can get and anyone who challenges that idea is wrong. have faith in who you are, but don’t give up on who you could grow into. there are lessons to learn about yourself everywhere.
you can have a fresh start anytime. you can start again every day. every hour if you need! you’re allowed to put the past behind you.
I’ve been seeing a lot of posts lately that talk about treating yourself the way you would treat a cherished loved one. And I’ve been trying to do that more.
Today I reached the level of hunger where you are miserable but not wanting to make yourself anything. I was craving a grill cheese sandwich so badly but didn’t have the motivation to make even a bowl of cereal.
Then I thought about how if one of the kids told me they were So Hungry and wanted a grill cheese I would get up and make one.
So I dragged my reluctant ass into the kitchen and started making it.
But then I accidentally burned the shit out of it.
And just as I was resigning myself to eating it anyway that gentle inner voice came and reminded me that I would never expect one of my family to eat a sad charcoal briquette like that.
So I gave myself permission to throw it out and start over.
And I made myself a perfect grill cheese and a cup of tea.
And right now I feel a little more loved and a little more happy with myself.
Do unto yourself as you would do unto those you love.
you don’t talk too much. you aren’t too loud. you aren’t too needy. you aren’t too sensitive. you aren’t too this, or that. you aren’t too much anything. you will never be too much: you are you, and you are allowed to take up space. you are allowed to exist however you choose.
You are not what happened to you. You didn’t deserve to go through all that. You deserved to be loved, to feel safe, to be safe. You deserved kindness. Patience. You deserved better.
normalize removing yourself from situations and distancing yourself from people that aren’t good for your mental health
Its okay if you failed and you don’t want to try again. Don’t see it as a failure, just because you don’t have the energy to continue, see it as a learning opportunity, to learn about your limits and abilities everytime a situation like this occurs. Sometimes its okay to quit, rest and just reflect on it rather than going on.
